3 things I miss about living in Poland

Yes, I know how much I complained when I actually lived there but hey, its human nature. You never fully get what you have till you’re removed from the situation and stand far enough to appreciate it. I was feeling rather positive and a lil adventurous today, I decided to trust the African salon down the street with my natural hair …. what an unholy mess that was. Please, please do not even let  me get into the rant, Lord don’t make me do it! I’ve been natural for 4 years and I know the number one rule for all naturals is to never compare your hair to anyone else’s, but my goodness have I fallen behind on my journey. Anyway, I will reluctantly move on to how I came about the title of this post. So after getting my hair totally messed up ( leaving out the obscenities) I decided to go through memory lane to see where I dropped the ball, the most pictures I took of my hair was while I was in Poland because I was blogging more actively then (which should really be the 4th thing I miss about Poland, the time and inspiration to blog). As I was going through all the hair pictures I stumbled across the amazing time I had in the Poland. I know this sounds awful and corny, but guys I actually think I found a lil of myself while I was there. Some days I was incredibly lonely and depressed but on other days I was a bit fearless and just open to everything. My mind worked in a better way, a more creative way! But these are the 3 things I miss the “mostest” 🙂

  1. I miss my time with God probably the most. I can not explain the hunger and thirst I had for God when I first got to Wroclaw. Plus I took part in the RCCG 100 days fast which truly changed my spiritual life. The peace I felt was second to none, even though I was in strange place with no one I knew, I felt so at home with God and made real progress with my spiritual life. It gave me a tiny glimpse of what I could really enjoy and gain from constantly being in God’s presence. It was awesome, it was one of the best moments of my life.
  2. I miss how amazing my hair and skin was then. Because I was actively blogging and documenting my hair journey I guess I just gave more of a  ish about my hair. I almost cried when I came across a picture of hair with full edges! I have taken so many things for granted this last year with my hair. I have taken liberties and seriously backtracked my journey. Now I have my wedding in 5 months and I’m not sure I can make any measurable progress before then. I will not lie guys, the creamy crack is at the top of my list, like right at the top of my list, followed closely by cutting it all off to start afresh! My skin… where do I start? My skin has been fairly ok till recently which can probably be attributed to me taking somewhat desperate measures to keep my facial issues under control. Again, I have 5 months to get my skin to the best it’s ever been. I’m not the most promising bride, am I? 😦
  3. I miss how opened minded living in a new place made me. I tried so many new things, found new things that I enjoyed, shared a different culture with new friends. Realised that once I opened up a bit I was actually quite likeable and learned how to be by myself and not get suicidal. Found new ways to keep myself occupied and entertained. It’s crazy how a small town in Poland could make me want so much more out of every aspect of my life. Spiritually, professionally, mentally, physically and even financially (surprisingly) I was in a sound place. But then human nature walks in and starts pointing out everything that is wrong with the situation and then you start dropping all the lessons you learned… then one day you get your hair massacred and realise that you had it good before.

God help me to be less human sometimes so I can really take what you give me as it is and appreciate it there and then.




What I’ve Learnt About My Hair

So I’ve had my natural hair out for about six weeks now, it was not intentional believe me. I ordered some Private Stock hair that just never ever arrived, it has been 7 weeks since I ordered from them. I don’t care to bad mouth or promote people’s businesses but I am telling you I will never ever ever ever ever ever ever order from that company again. They have no regard for people’s money, they take no responsibility for their products, and customer service is non-existent. If the hair ever arrives and I absolutely love it, I still will never order from Private Stock Hair again. This has nothing to do with the quality of the hair, I haven’t gotten the hair yet so I’m not commenting on whether the hair is of good quality or not, I’m just saying as a company, NEVER AGAIN!


*sigh of relief* Glad to have gotten that off my chest, even though I totally digressed in the process 🙂 I will get you more info on the quality of the hair if it ever arrives. So yes, I have had my natural hair out for about 6 weeks now. The plan was to get my Private Stock hair after my trip to Nairobi and get it installed before I headed back out to Poland. Obviously that didn’t happen so I’ve been stuck with my hair out. The longest I have ever had my hair out at a go is two weeks and then I usually find some sort of protective style to keep my fingers out of my hair. At first I panicked; I didn’t know that many protective styles to do with the length of my hair and I’m not great at styling even if I did know a couple of styles. But the last and deepest of my fears was BREAKAGE! You all know how real my breakage issues are…. All I could see was 6 weeks of severely dry, brittle hair. But I’m not going to lie, my hair held up good, here are a couple of things I learnt about my hair during this time;


  • My hair is not as stubborn and unruly as I thought; It likes to be moisturised and left alone.


  • I have 4C type hair that is prone to Sahara type dryness. Your hair getting dry is inevitable you just need to keep at it with moisturising; and when you do moisturise put it in sections to leave it stretched.


  • A little dirt never hurt anybody. Personally I hate having to get my hair drenched in water unnecessarily because what comes after that is sectioning and moisturising and then oiling… and it’s a really long process that I do not care for. I have washed my hair twice in 6 weeks and not co-washed, I mean like wash wash with a shampoo. It take a couple of days for my hair to absorb moisture after being stripped so I am no about that washing frequently life. This is what works for my hair.


  • Bantu knots are my friends. The End.


  • Finger detangle as much as you can, stay away from combs! I haven’t used a comb on my hair for a week and a half now, just my fingers.


  • Staple products from now till Jesus returns – Cantu Shea Butter Leave in Conditioning Repair Cream. My hair loves this stuff! This is the only leave in that has ever worked on my hair, I used it at as moisturiser and styling product and always seal with an oil.


  • DON’T EVER TOUCH YOUR DRY! Over the last couple of weeks I have really learnt the importance of water on my hair. It is the one thing I have used to really fight breakage. My hair should never be styled or manipulated dry, that is a recipe for disaster; it should always be at least damp before anything is done to it. And don’t just spray water on your hair, make sure to massage it into your hair strands to make sure that your hair absorbs it.


These are the things that work for my hair, they might not work for your hair. Our hair is our own and we know how best to take of it. 6 weeks is a long enough time to know what does and what doesn’t work for your hair 🙂