Yes, I know how much I complained when I actually lived there but hey, its human nature. You never fully get what you have till you’re removed from the situation and stand far enough to appreciate it. I was feeling rather positive and a lil adventurous today, I decided to trust the African salon down the street with my natural hair …. what an unholy mess that was. Please, please do not even let me get into the rant, Lord don’t make me do it! I’ve been natural for 4 years and I know the number one rule for all naturals is to never compare your hair to anyone else’s, but my goodness have I fallen behind on my journey. Anyway, I will reluctantly move on to how I came about the title of this post. So after getting my hair totally messed up ( leaving out the obscenities) I decided to go through memory lane to see where I dropped the ball, the most pictures I took of my hair was while I was in Poland because I was blogging more actively then (which should really be the 4th thing I miss about Poland, the time and inspiration to blog). As I was going through all the hair pictures I stumbled across the amazing time I had in the Poland. I know this sounds awful and corny, but guys I actually think I found a lil of myself while I was there. Some days I was incredibly lonely and depressed but on other days I was a bit fearless and just open to everything. My mind worked in a better way, a more creative way! But these are the 3 things I miss the “mostest” 🙂
I miss my time with God probably the most. I can not explain the hunger and thirst I had for God when I first got to Wroclaw. Plus I took part in the RCCG 100 days fast which truly changed my spiritual life. The peace I felt was second to none, even though I was in strange place with no one I knew, I felt so at home with God and made real progress with my spiritual life. It gave me a tiny glimpse of what I could really enjoy and gain from constantly being in God’s presence. It was awesome, it was one of the best moments of my life.
I miss how amazing my hair and skin was then. Because I was actively blogging and documenting my hair journey I guess I just gave more of a ish about my hair. I almost cried when I came across a picture of hair with full edges! I have taken so many things for granted this last year with my hair. I have taken liberties and seriously backtracked my journey. Now I have my wedding in 5 months and I’m not sure I can make any measurable progress before then. I will not lie guys, the creamy crack is at the top of my list, like right at the top of my list, followed closely by cutting it all off to start afresh! My skin… where do I start? My skin has been fairly ok till recently which can probably be attributed to me taking somewhat desperate measures to keep my facial issues under control. Again, I have 5 months to get my skin to the best it’s ever been. I’m not the most promising bride, am I? 😦
I miss how opened minded living in a new place made me. I tried so many new things, found new things that I enjoyed, shared a different culture with new friends. Realised that once I opened up a bit I was actually quite likeable and learned how to be by myself and not get suicidal. Found new ways to keep myself occupied and entertained. It’s crazy how a small town in Poland could make me want so much more out of every aspect of my life. Spiritually, professionally, mentally, physically and even financially (surprisingly) I was in a sound place. But then human nature walks in and starts pointing out everything that is wrong with the situation and then you start dropping all the lessons you learned… then one day you get your hair massacred and realise that you had it good before.
God help me to be less human sometimes so I can really take what you give me as it is and appreciate it there and then.
Hi Guys! I am just popping in to give a quick update on whats been going on with my hair. I’ve had my private stock hair in for the last two months and I took it out last week. If you would like to know my thoughts on PS Hair click here to see my review. In conclusion to the review the only thing I will say is that you can’t really get more than two months out of it unless you made a wig with it. Towards the end of the two months I noticed that it became harder to restore the curls and softness of the hair and it matted a lot easier as well, this was my cue to take it out. I would definitely opt for this style for a future protective style 🙂
I can’t say that I noticed any dramatic changes in my hair. Obviously there was a lot of product build up on my scalp but a week before I took out my install I co-washed my hair so my hair was fairly moisturized and the breakage and shedding I was expecting to see was actually very little which was what I was most happy about.
Normally as soon as I take a protective style out I shampoo my hair immediately but I had just gotten back from a work weekend away and we were up partying to the early hours of the morning so I was not about to jump into a 4 hour wash day routine. Now because I had co-washed a week before I knew I could go a week without cleansing my hair, so I did. I put my hair into sections and moisturized before I went to bed and that was it. For the next day and entire week I had my hair in a puff.
Generally my hair felt strong and healthy and throughout last week I was contemplating if I would want to try a treatment on my hair because I knew I would be getting a protective style done the following week (this week). The first thing that I thought would be good to do was a protein type treatment because I had heard that it was good for strengthening your hair after a protective style. Now I wasn’t too keen on doing it because my hair does not like protein, it prefers moisture and I was right… but I did it anyway. I did a DIY treatment myself using natural honey, avocado oil, coconut oil, Treseme Natural conditioner, EVO and coconut milk. There were other recipes that included more protein based products but I opted for just the coconut milk as my main product. Can I just say that this mixture smelt heavenly, it took the will of God for me not to dip my finger in and lick it. It was out of this world! Like the best smoothie never created! Anyway…. and because I still hadn’t cleansed my scalp after taking out the protective style I decided to do an ACV rinse before applying the DC to get rid of the product build up but I recently read on Neno Natural that this was actually ineffective. I should have done the ACV after my DC because it closes and flattens your hair cuticles *sigh*… oh well at least I know for next time. For this DIY conditioner I would suggest you use more conditioner that coconut milk, the consistency was runny and made application very messy… it kept on running down the side of my face! I rinsed it out after 30mins and followed up with a moisturizer and oil for sealing.
As I predicted my hair did not care very much for the protein treatment. Over the next two days I noticed my hair was a weird kind of dry and even after moisturizing it still didn’t change. So I thought now would be a good time to try out my AphoGee 2 Min Moisture Treatment.
I have to say I was pretty impressed with the results, the feel of my hair was instantly improved and this morning my hair felt more moisturized than it did after the protein treatment.
My hair journey is series of lessons for me and these are some of the things I’ve observed so far;
My hair does not like PROTEIN 🙂
I have been natural for 2 years + and I haven’t seen a lot of growth in the length department. Now I’m not overly bothered about it because I have never had length even when I was relaxed. And I know the number 1 rule for being natural is to never compare yourself to anyone else but I can’t help but notice people that started their natural hair journey the same time with me having more length. My hair spends so much time being thick that it forgets to grow vertically!
I’ve just come to accept that there are certain parts of my hair (the sides) that will always stay desert dry no matter what I do.
My scalp gets dirty very easily and sometimes the only thing that will help is some good ol’ Shampooing!
Sorry about the length of this post… it’s been a while. If you can relate to anything I have mentioned in this post please leave a comment below!
My last post about my bomb bantu knot out was filled with love and admiration of how well-behaved my hair was. It was soft and shiny and all that good stuff! I have 4C hair so I rarely ever reap the fruit of my labour from the night before when it comes to styling. My hair is not a respecter of time or occasion she acts out and just does her! And I know that some people will talk about how it doesn’t matter what hair type you have it’s all the same and you just have to love your hair and blah blah! These are the same people who get popping curls and laid down edges from just adding H2O to their hair, just ordinary water though! No boo boo, our struggles are not the same, what you know about this cotton hair texture?!?
Last night I spent two *insert french* hours doing my hair. Please, ask me what I was trying to do? Literally just two flat twist on either side of my hair with a side part in the middle. My hair has been in a bun for two days and I haven’t washed it in two weeks so it’s due some serious cleansing because of the product build up, especially with my bun where I used gel in putting my hair up. So last night I thought about what I could do because I didn’t want to re-do the bun and have to use more gel but I wanted something to hold me til the weekend when I’d wash my hair. That’s why I decided on the two “simple” flat twist. The stubbornness that is my hair would not let me get the flat twist laid down right and because my hair is ridiculously thick and a lot thicker than it is long my fingers were aching in no time. And then the frustration set in, and then irritation, and then annoyance. If my hair was a person I would have given her a proper WHOOPING! Yes it was that serious! Something as SIMPLE as two flat twist became such an ordeal! I mean I wasn’t even asking for curls or nothing just ordinary flat twists to rock to work. I did everything but this hair would not lay down. Out of frustration I put my hair in shabby cornrows so I could wear my wig this morning . What would I have done if I didn’t have a wig???
I love being natural and yes even my hair texture is loved but let’s not deceive ourselves this natural ish is tough, trying, frustrating, annoying, saddening … the list goes on. We all go on about the great inspiring stuff about being natural and how it’s liberating and blah blah, and don’t get me wrong it is but it is also a whole lot of bad hair days.. and when you have a bad hair day as a natural you know it’s real BAD hair day!