3 things I miss about living in Poland

Yes, I know how much I complained when I actually lived there but hey, its human nature. You never fully get what you have till you’re removed from the situation and stand far enough to appreciate it. I was feeling rather positive and a lil adventurous today, I decided to trust the African salon down the street with my natural hair …. what an unholy mess that was. Please, please do not even letย  me get into the rant, Lord don’t make me do it! I’ve been natural for 4 years and I know the number one rule for all naturals is to never compare your hair to anyone else’s, but my goodness have I fallen behind on my journey. Anyway, I will reluctantly move on to how I came about the title of this post. So after getting my hair totally messed up ( leaving out the obscenities) I decided to go through memory lane to see where I dropped the ball, the most pictures I took of my hair was while I was in Poland because I was blogging more actively then (which should really be the 4th thing I miss about Poland, the time and inspiration to blog). As I was going through all the hair pictures I stumbled across the amazing time I had in the Poland. I know this sounds awful and corny, but guys I actually think I found a lil of myself while I was there. Some days I was incredibly lonely and depressed but on other days I was a bit fearless and just open to everything. My mind worked in a better way, a more creative way! But these are the 3 things I miss the “mostest” ๐Ÿ™‚

  1. I miss my time with God probably the most. I can not explain the hunger and thirst I had for God when I first got to Wroclaw. Plus I took part in the RCCG 100 days fast which truly changed my spiritual life. The peace I felt was second to none, even though I was in strange place with no one I knew, I felt so at home with God and made real progress with my spiritual life. It gave me a tiny glimpse of what I could really enjoy and gain from constantly being in God’s presence. It was awesome, it was one of the best moments of my life.
  2. I miss how amazing my hair and skin was then. Because I was actively blogging and documenting my hair journey I guess I just gave more of aย  ish about my hair. I almost cried when I came across a picture of hair with full edges! I have taken so many things for granted this last year with my hair. I have taken liberties and seriously backtracked my journey. Now I have my wedding in 5 months and I’m not sure I can make any measurable progress before then. I will not lie guys, the creamy crack is at the top of my list, like right at the top of my list, followed closely by cutting it all off to start afresh! My skin… where do I start? My skin has been fairly ok till recently which can probably be attributed to me taking somewhat desperate measures to keep my facial issues under control. Again, I have 5 months to get my skin to the best it’s ever been. I’m not the most promising bride, am I? ๐Ÿ˜ฆ
  3. I miss how opened minded living in a new place made me. I tried so many new things, found new things that I enjoyed, shared a different culture with new friends. Realised that once I opened up a bit I was actually quite likeable and learned how to be by myself and not get suicidal. Found new ways to keep myself occupied and entertained. It’s crazy how a small town in Poland could make me want so much more out of every aspect of my life. Spiritually, professionally, mentally, physically and even financially (surprisingly) I was in a sound place. But then human nature walks in and starts pointing out everything that is wrong with the situation and then you start dropping all the lessons you learned… then one day you get your hair massacred and realise that you had it good before.

God help me to be less human sometimes so I can really take what you give me as it is and appreciate it there and then.

Amen.

Goodnight.

These Are a Few of My Favourite Things…. Simple Updos

Guys! I’m so proud of myself right now!!! Like so proud! Had my hair in a bun all week but I’ve just been so bored with the look and my ends are literally dying. Nothing makes me happier than a bantu knot out so I started twisting and called it a night. This morning as I was getting ready to head out I decided to try something different so I took my twists down but didn’t unravel them, I took bobbing pins and put the back up. And with the front I still didn’t unravel, I simply took each twist and pulled this way and that across till I was happy and voilร ! So simple and your ends are tucked in and protected!ย  Plus, the curls should last longer too because they aren’t being unraveled. Updos are always the test of how just how long your hair is, this has restored some confidence I had lost in my hair growing at all. And this is a good way to keep your hair stretched without heat! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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Life After My Twists…

First off, let me just say that I absolutely loved the look of my twists. I loved the look of them when they were new and when they got old. I had them in for exactly 8 weeks before taking them out. I never washed my hair while I had them in because even dry they were really heavy and I had already put my edges through enough as it was. I would spray my hair with water and oil weekly which worked well. I concentrated more on my roots when i did this because the twists were so thick it was impossible to get to my actual hair.

I had asked for havana twists because I like the invisible roots but the lady obviously didn’t know how to do them and just did regular twists. She was not gentle with my at all! But it was my fault really, I sat there suffering in silence. I figured they were twists and had to be tight at first, plus while she doing my hair it wasn’t half as bad. It was when she was done that I realised my downfall. All I could think was bald spots at my edges!ย  You would think that this would have moved me to do something drastic like take them down, hell nah! I wasn’t about to be $130 dollars short for nothing, which is outrageously overpriced! My sympathy to all my readers who live in the States!

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Any who, so I had my twists in they were amazing looking and super uncomfortable. I got an unusual amount of compliments and people asking where I got them done and who did it. That was all fine and good during the day, at night I was on my own. Sleeping for the first 3 weeks was near impossible, unless you slept face down into your pillow. The pulled at my scalp no matter what way I slept and you couldn’t do much with them in terms of tying them because of how bulky they were. But at the same time having them running down your back and shoulders was not comfortable either! So I resolved to sleeping on the side of my face and brushing my twists away from face and back onto the pillow.

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In terms of styling again not much I could do with them. If I had an respect for edges worldwide I wouldn’t attempt to put them up, and so I didn’t. For the entire 8 weeks I had it half up half down and it didn’t look bad to be fair, but when you get braids done one of the main things you look forward to is styling your hair differently and I guess I missed having the option. But again, I loved the look of them so it wasn’t all bad.

My hair was moistured weekly so when I took the twists out my hair wasn’t super dry but edges on the other hand were just about to give up the ghost. They were brittle and weak so I expected a lot of breakage and shedding…. which I got. Because of the weight of the marley extensions my hair was pretty stretched out, but even with that, detangling was a nightmare! When it came to washing my hair I by passed all the gentle cleansers and went straight for the strongest shampoo I had. I wasn’t overly concerned with my hair being stripped of moisture and all that, I just wanted to get rid of all the product build up.

After washing I followed up with a simple deep condition mixed with coconut, castor, and extra virgin olive. I left this on my hair for about an hour or so i think… I can’t really remember, I was catching on with Downton Abbey ๐Ÿ™‚

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Once I rinsed the conditioner out I followed up with my cantu shea butter leave in and sealed with EVOO. I honestly expected my hair to be in worse condition after the strain the twist had put on my hair but it was all good. My hair can be such a trooper sometimes ๐Ÿ™‚ I did however, lose hair at my edges, but it’s not that noticeable so I’m not overly upset, at the end of the day its just hair, it will grow back.

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Would I do the twists again??? I wanna say yes because even though I wasn’t able to do much in terms of styling they still looked good and lasted. I won’t get them as thick so I won’t have to use as much marley hair and hopefully make it more manageable and easier to manipulate. I also won’t let them be sooooo tight! Next time I will speak up for the sake of my scalp and edges. In terms of growth I think that my hair has grown in the two months but then again I might have lost all my gained length to all the breakage and shedding. At the end of the day It’s hair… it will grow back ๐Ÿ™‚

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These Are a Few of My Favourite Things…. Chunky Kinky Twists

Hey guys! So I’ve been rocking these chunky twists for the last week and I absolutely love the look of them despite the numerous cons to having them in…I’ll fill you guys in on them in my next hair update. Gotten so many compliments on them ๐Ÿ˜‰

P.s I wanted havana twists and the stylist was like yea yea I know how to do them… but yea this aint them though… still love em ๐Ÿ˜‰

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Hair Update

Hi Guys! I am just popping in to give a quick update on whats been going on with my hair. I’ve hadย my private stock hair inย for the last two months and I took it out last week. If you would likeย to know my thoughts on PS Hair click here to see my review. In conclusion to the review the only thing I will say is that you can’t really get more than two months out of it unless you made a wig with it. Towards the end of the two months I noticed that it became harder to restore the curls and softness of the hair and it matted a lot easier as well, this was my cue to take it out. I would definitely opt for this style for a future protective style ๐Ÿ™‚

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PS Hair – ‘Go Natural’

I can’t say that I noticed any dramatic changes in my hair. Obviously there was a lot of product build up on my scalp but a week before I took out my install I co-washed my hair so my hair was fairly moisturized and the breakage and shedding I was expecting to see was actually very little which was what I was most happy about.

Normally as soon as I take a protective style out I shampoo my hair immediately but I had just gotten back from a work weekend away and we were up partying to the early hours of the morning so I was not about to jump into a 4 hour wash day routine. Now because I had co-washed a week before I knew I could go a week without cleansing my hair, so I did. I put my hair into sections and moisturized before I went to bed and that was it. For the next day and entire week I had my hair in a puff.

Generally my hair felt strong and healthy and throughout last week I was contemplating if I would want to try a treatment on my hair because I knew I would be getting a protective style done the following week (this week). The first thing that I thought would be good to do was a protein type treatment because I had heard that it was good for strengthening your hair after a protective style. Now I wasn’t too keen on doing it because my hair does not like protein, it prefers moisture and I was right… but I did it anyway. I did a DIY treatment myself using natural honey, avocado oil, coconut oil, Treseme Natural conditioner, EVO and coconut milk. There were other recipes that included more protein based products but I opted for just the coconut milk as my main product. Can I just say that this mixture smelt heavenly, it took the will of God for me not to dip my finger in and lick it. It was out of this world! Like the best smoothie never created! Anyway…. and because I still hadn’t cleansed my scalp after taking out the protective style I decided to do an ACV rinse before applying the DC to get rid of the product build up but I recently read on Neno Natural that thisย was actually ineffective. I should have done the ACV after my DC because it closes and flattens your hair cuticles *sigh*… oh well at least I know for next time. For this DIY conditioner I would suggest you use more conditioner that coconut milk, the consistency was runny and made application very messy… it kept on running down the side of my face! I rinsed it out after 30mins and followed up with a moisturizer and oil for sealing.

 

DIY Deep Condition and ACV Rinse
DIY Deep Condition and ACV Rinse
My hair the following day after my protein DC... looked good but felt dry, especially at the ends.
My hair the following day after my protein DC… looked good but felt dry, especially at the ends.

As I predicted my hair did not care very much for the protein treatment. Over the next two days I noticed my hair was a weird kind of dry and even after moisturizing it still didn’t change. So I thought now would be a good time to try out my AphoGee 2 Min Moisture Treatment.

AphoGee 2 minute Moisture treatment
AphoGee 2 minute Moisture treatment

I have to say I was pretty impressed with the results, the feel of my hair was instantly improved and this morning my hair felt more moisturized than it did after the protein treatment.

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Twist out with Cantu Shea Butter curling creme, curls were more defined but I picked at the at the roots to give it more volume

My hair journey is series of lessons for me and these are some of the things I’ve observed so far;

  • My hair does not like PROTEIN ๐Ÿ™‚
  • I have been natural for 2 yearsย + and I haven’t seen a lot of growth in the length department. Now I’m not overly bothered about it because I have never had length even when I was relaxed. And I know the number 1 rule for being natural is to never compare yourself to anyone else but I can’t help but notice people that started their natural hair journey the same time with me having more length. My hair spends so much time being thick that it forgets to grow vertically!
  • I’ve just come to accept that there are certain parts of my hair (the sides) that will always stay desert dry no matter what I do.
  • My scalp gets dirty very easily and sometimes the only thing that will help is some good ol’ Shampooing!
Lazy length check... my hair is longer in the middle and front than any where else.
Lazy length check… my hair is longer in the middle and front than anywhere else.

Sorry about the length of this post… it’s been a while. If you can relate to anything I have mentioned in this post please leave a comment below!

 

Thank you for reading! xxx

 

 

4 weeks in – Private Stock Hair Review

Happy Sundays peoples! I hope church was good for those of you who went and I really hope everyone’s been having a great start to the week already. Quickly dropping by to let you guys know how I am getting on with my Private Stock hair, I mentioned in my previous post that I would come back in a couple of weeks and let you know how the hair was holding up.

I took the hair out a few days ago to wash my scalp and you guys saw that with the up-do I was rocking for most of last week . As well as washing my hair I also had a chance to wash the Private Stock hair too. Now one of the main reason I took the hair out was because I was not happy with way I had gotten it installed. I work in a corporate environment and though it was cute when I first did, it walking around with a big bunch hair in my face all day just didn’t suit me at all, and the hair just seemed to get bigger even with all the shedding! 2-3 days before I took it out I started wearing it up in a really messy bun with a head band just to get it out of my face, and I left it like that for 3 days. As you can imagine the hair was a tangled mess when I took it down.

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I panicked a little thinking I had destroyed the hair but then I remembered I bought the Pantene co-wash to test on the Private Stock hair and it worked brilliantly. Got rid of the tangles and brought the curls back to life effortlessly.

Patene Natural Co-Wash
Pantene Natural Co-Wash

 

Private Stock Hair- Curls refreshed after co-washing
Private Stock Hair- Curls refreshed after co-washing

Getting it installed a second time I decided to go for a centre part this time with some leave out thinking that i could manipulate my hair to blend with the curls but it has been a fail and I’m close to walking out of my house with my leave out in two flat twists. I have tried everything but the curls just won’t hold with my texture!

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I am on the verge of throwing a huge blob of gel at my leave out to get some curl definition. I find that the Private Stock hair has a similar texture to my hair towards the ends but from the wefts down to the middle the curls are more defined and practically impossible to blend with a 4c hair texture. It doesn’t help that my hair is black and the weave is a light brown.

You can see my hair clearly... it just won't blend :(
You can see my hair clearly… it just won’t blend ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

But anyway, let’s talk about some of the things I have observed about the hair. Everything I said in my original post still stands; the hair does shed a lot but with that being said I did cut one of the wefts and I didn’t seal them. The hair is super soft but is high maintenance, you need to know how to take care of hair to get the best out of this hair. You will need to dust the ends a tiny bit to keep it neat and fresh looking. The curls pop more when the hair is wet so you need to wet it a little with the spray bottle in the mornings to revive the curls. I definitely love this hair and have become a fan of kinky textured extensions in general! ๐Ÿ™‚

I’ll do a final review when I take the hair out at the end of the month, but in the meantime does anyone have any tips for blending my 4c hair with this type of curl pattern before I leave my house looking ratchet ( I live and work with predominantly white people who can’t tell when something isn’t right with my hair so I take a lot of liberties… a lot ๐Ÿ™‚ )

HELP! xxx

So this is what’s going on with my hair today….

Took my Private Stock hair out Friday evening because I wanted to give my scalp a proper clean and I’m happy I did because my hair really needed it. There was a lot of breakage so I had to spend time getting moisture back into my hair. Woke up this morning and I had no idea what I wanted to do with my hair plus I went hiking yesterday so I was no mood for hair tantrums. I wanted something quick and tamed without having to pull my hair into a bun, so I did what everyย  Natural would do and got on YouTube to look for a tutorial and this was the result ๐Ÿ™‚

Natural Hair Updo - 4C
Natural Hair Updo – 4C

 

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I sorta used a hair band to hold it together at the back because my hair is thicker than it is long and it just won’t hold with a tuck and pin. But it was able to do it in front with like a gazillion bobby pins of course ๐Ÿ™‚

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